Observations on Change

Have you ever said to yourself, "Just when I thought I knew the game, the game changed, and I have to start all over again?" In truth, the game may not have changed—what changed was the referee, now interpreting the rules differently.

That’s the problem with change: it’s rarely consistent or predictable. As Lillian Hellman wisely observed, “People change and forget to tell each other.”

So when I read the April 30 entry in Each Day a New Beginning, I was struck by its quiet truth:

“Experience can’t prepare us for the ramifications of a new change. But our trust in friends, and our faith in the spiritual process of life, can and will see us through whatever comes.”

That’s a solution that works—especially in recovery.

First, "trust in friends" is exactly what happens in AA, especially in working with a sponsor. We no longer have to struggle alone in the face of change. We have the fellowship of the program—people who walk beside us and hold us up when the ground shifts beneath us.

Second, "faith in the spiritual process of life" reminds us that a loving Higher Power is present. This creates an atmosphere of love and acceptance—something strong enough to carry us through any storm.

As John Donne wrote: “No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” 

That interdependence is vital to human survival—especially in times of transition.

In recovery, I’ve discovered the deep truth of these words from Alcoholics Anonymous (p. 17):

“We are people who normally would not mix. But there exists among us a fellowship, a friendliness, and an understanding which is indescribably wonderful.”

It’s in that “indescribable” understanding that we find the courage to grow and the safety to heal.

Spiritually, I rely on the promises of scripture. Isaiah 41:10 tells us:

“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee… I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

And in Matthew 11:28, Jesus invites us directly: “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

For me, Alma 38:5 sets the bar when it comes to trusting God in the midst of uncertainty: 

“And now my son, Shiblon, I would that ye should remember, that as much as ye shall put your trust in God even so much ye shall be delivered out of your trials, and your troubles, and your afflictions, and ye shall be lifted up at the last day.”

Conclusion:  Even when change feels impossible and ominously frightening, we can find beauty in knowing we are not alone. We have friends to walk with us, and a loving God who offers clarity, strength, and rest. Trust in that, and you’ll find the courage to face whatever comes next.